How to Achieve Better Sex this Year
Way back on January 1st, you might have told yourself “yes, this is the year to improve your sexlife” and now a little more than half way into January, that ambitious goal seems a distant memory. We hope not, but if it is, we have a few helpful hints for you to have better sex in 2018.
Resolutions seem so final don’t they? And darn it, the one time, you don’t meet your resolution, it kind of sends you off the rails. Try reframing your resolution to intention. Seems a little more gentle and doable, doesn’t it? You’ve got this; you can set an intention for better sex. And suddenly, yes, you can have better sex in 2018.
Think about how and why you want to achieve better sex. If you look at the reasons why you want this, you’ll already have some answers. Do you feel distant from your partner? Or do you feel like you are in a rut? Do you simply want to feel more connected to your partner? Do you want to experience a variety of partners?
Create New Habits
OK so you’ve thought about this and considered why you really want better sex in 2018 and now how do you make this happen? For some people in order to have better sex you actually need to feel more connected with your partner. It is actually kind of in your head. This is a mind set, rather like reframing a resolution to an intention. Create new habits with your partner. Experts say you have to do something consistently for at least 30 days in order for a new habit to form. Another study found that couples that kiss each other hello and good bye everyday and every time feel more connected than the couple who simply says “see you”. Simple right? Yes, but it really makes a difference.
On the flip side, if you feel like your sex life is kind of routine, take the initiative and change it up. We don’t know what your routine is but we do know that when you add sex toys into the mix, couples report feeling satisfied, refreshed and reinvigorated. When you think about it, makes sense right? If we ate salad everyday, wouldn’t we want to try something different once in awhile? We’d recommend a vibrating penis ring. It is simple, doesn’t have to be expensive, yet it is fun and kind of daring. Think about it, your penis becomes a vibrator! How can that not be fun? When you wear it, your shaft is vibrating and when you are intimate with your sex partner, they feel the intense vibration against their body as well. WOW, so easy to add a little zip to your sex life!
Meet New People
And yes we know, we don’t all have regular sexual partners and of course this is something you may or may not want, but we do know that you want a varied sex life for 2018, so why not shake up your dating routines? There are sex clubs, swingers clubs, BDSM events. They happen in safe, public buildings with security. There are ground rules that you must respect. Never tried a dating app, well what are you waiting for? Just be sensible, be safe, make sure someone knows where you are at all times.
Set your intentions, your goals, be flexible and open to new experiences. and with these new efforts, we think you’ll be well on your way to a better sex life in 2018!
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