We get it, life is so darn busy…but you and your partner are worth some time and attention. Use these foreplay tips to add some spice and dimension to your foreplay repetoire.
If you’re looking for ways to spice up your sex life, downloading a “yes/no/maybe” list from the Internet is a great way for you and your partner to get started. According to Emily Morse, Ph.D., these lists can help you determine what you and your partner are willing to try in the bedroom, and include everything from BDSM to sex toys and non-monogamy. Each person goes through the list and marks which items are a yes, a maybe, or a definite no. Review the lists together to see where you and your partner land.
Revisit your Romance
Relationship fact: The early days of your romance tend to be the hottest and heaviest. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still capture that gotta-have-you-now passion. Next time you and your partner are getting intimate, use those early hookups as inspiration to recreate one of your past encounters, says sexologist Barbara Winter, Ph.D. This can start before sex—for example, going to one of your old date-night spots or wearing the same clothes you wore during a hot moment at the beginning of your relationship. Then, later in the night, break out a move you used to do in bed that really turned you both on.
Have your partner lie on their back and proceed to play a little game of “getting warmer.” Use your hands (or your mouth) to gently caress different parts of their body. You could start with random spots like the knees or forehead and then move to more erogenous zones. While you’re moving about, ask how your partner is handling the temperature. Keep “getting warmer” until they can’t take it anymore and then switch roles. By the time the game is over you’ll both be on fire.
Be Completely Still
Tell your partner to sit on the sofa or lie down on the bed. Kiss them—on the mouth, the cheeks, the forehead, the ears, the eyelids, the neck, hands, knees, you name it! Here’s the catch: Your partner has to stay totally still. They can’t move, or touch you, or try to kiss you back. When you’ve kissed your partner from head to toe, switch places. The build up and anticipation will have you both dying to get intimate.
How often do you really make eye contact? Set a timer on your phone for 2 minutes and simply stare into each others eyes. After two minutes of really looking at each other you’ll have created a deeper bond of intimacy.
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