Some women might want to orgasm through penetration…. but most will not. Most women will orgasm through clitoral stimulation. So it seems clear to us that when having sex with a partner, pay attention to the clitoris! In a recent study only 18% of American women can orgasm through penetration alone. Studies have shown that some men don’t know where the clitoris is! Eek, in that case, some education needs to happen. And of course you might just want to explore your own body. So let’s get to know this lovely little body part.
Wishbone
Your clitoris is actually shaped like a wishbone. It is not just a little nib at the top of your vulva area…the glans go within your body. Don’t focus only on what you see and can touch externally. Penetrate a little deeper. Try a little lube to help with penetration.
Touch Yourself
The best thing to do is to actually touch yourself, explore you, take a mirror and and say hi to your clitoris. Find out what feels good to you, so you can better pleasure yourself and share that information with a partner. Take your time, set aside some time just for you, use your fingers, if you have a vibrator bring it out but first try exploring with your fingers, get up close and very personal.
Vibrator Anyone?
Once you’ve explored and played with your clitoris manually, try a vibrator. There are lots of options, pretty much any hard plastic sex toy will provide stimulation and we’d recommend keeping it simple at first. Once you’ve try a simple vibrator, then step up your game with a specific suction based clitoral sex toy for women.
Practice Practice Practice
Remember there is no reason that you should just know what to do. You are bound to have some forks in the road. But we always say the fun is in the trying. We tend to be very hard on ourselves for just not knowing exactly what we like when it comes to sex, but honestly why would we? So let’s give ourselves a bit of a break, keep trying and then best of all communicate with your sex partner, what you have learned!
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