Sexual Self Care Looks Different for everyone

It is difficult to make time just for you, isn’t it? Whether we’re managing our kids Zoom classroom, making a family dinner. Working long hours from home, trying to finish up our course work. Whatever it is, it is always so easy to say…I’ll attend to me later. The reality is that there will always be dinner to cook, Zoom meetings and who knows what else pulling at our attention. You deserve to be at the top of your list at least once a week for say 15 minutes? Can you take those 15 minutes and devote them to yourself?

First steps: Sexual Self Care

I know, I know, at first the very idea of sexual self care might feel a little scandalous or naughty. That discussion could be another blog altogether! But for now, let’s imagine, that we’ve gotten over the first hurdle and decided that yes, I would like to understand my body better. I’d like to know what feels good to me.

Firstly, remember what feels good to me might be different for you. And I always say the fun is in the trying. You might not hit it out of the park initially, but with practice you will. Honestly, just like anything else, sexual self care takes practice.

First Steps

1. Be deliberate, pick a day and time to discover your body.
2. Do your research.
3. Treat yourself, make sure you have everything you need.
4. Commit.

Be Deliberate

Brava, you’ve made choice to be good to you. Next, think about when you can take some quiet time for you. Does this mean you might get up a little earlier on Sunday? Or perhaps go to bed a little earlier? Good, pick a time and day and stick with it. Develop a weekly habit. Allow yourself at least fifteen minutes to devote to yourself…you might want to add more but start with the minimum of fifteen minutes.

Research, Research, Research

Research doesn’t sound that sexy right? But if you take the time to figure out a simple plan, then your self care will go smoothly. Sexual self care can happen in a variety of ways. Do you like to read? Maybe erotic fiction might intrigue you. Are you more of a visual person, perhaps a movie might just do the trick? My favourite is a sex toy. Toys are fantastic ways to discover what you like, what you want to work on or what you want to explore further even with a partner. And trust me, you can get the job done in fifteen minutes or less! You might be tempted to stay longer!

Treat Yourself

If any of these ideas pique your curiosity, then you have a homework assignment (best homework ever). Look online for brands of sex toys that have good reputations, read the reviews (yes there are reviews). And keep in mind, what might interest you. Are you looking for clitoral stimulation, well then you might want a specific toy for that? Is penetration more you area of interest, well then consider a silicone toy as they are nonporous, odorless, and come in fun colours, shapes, and sizes. Treat yourself to a quality water based, organic lubricant, great for sex toys and sex.

Commit

You’ve come this far, now what? Make a plan to be very diligent about your me time for sexual self care. It’s so easy to say, I’ll try again next week, but don’t do that to yourself. You’ve thought about a time that works for you, you’ve done your research and you’ve treated yourself to something special, so now just go for it. Remember, the more you explore, the more confident you will become.

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